Wednesday, 14 September 2011

Do you pay for stuff on the first date?

Ok i know this may sound like a bit of a stupid question but just say you meet up with a girl at the cinema, is it expected of you to pay for her ticket, drinks, popcorn etc? I have no problem paying for it even though ive no real source of income at the moment as im a student but have times changed? Do you pay for your own shit? Keep in mind this isnt your girlfriend..first date.


40 comments:

  1. Well I've only ever "dated" one girl, but we didn't actually go on anything that most people would term a date lol. But she typically paid for everything because I had no sources of income and no money. I felt pretty damn bad about it though. I'm just that way, that I would want to pay. There are people who don't though, and it's a more common thing now. Like I say though, if chivalry is dead, it's women that killed it.

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  2. Yeah, why not? I think you are expected to pay and going to the movies is a lot cheaper than going to a restaurant.
    She might offer to pay for her stuff, you say no, you look like a decent guy. Everyone's happy.
    Nothing wrong with paying. If you don't pay for everything she might think you are a cheapskate even if you are not. Each girl is different.

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  3. Depends if you have the money or not but honestly, whatever they want's cool with me. Nice post buddy.

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  4. Depends. If i'm the one asking her out I pay for the ticket. If she's asking me... ill pay for my own ticket only

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  5. Of course! First impressions are permanent ingrained.

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  6. i would pay no matter what. You come off classy that way.

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  7. Yeah, first impressions - you dont want to look like a cheapskate, then later dates you guys could split it.

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  8. Well i've been on many dates and most of the times they didn't let me pay for it although i made my move. Everytime there is this flirty arguement of who's gonna pay. To tell you the truth everytime i payed on first date, were the times i hooked up with those dates. But this happened by chance, i don't think it had anything to do with my treat.

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  9. you ALWAYS have to try to pay, but if she says to split, do so...dont have the"no no no i pay i pay" argument is an awkward as fuck moment and she will notice some lack of confidence...always try to pay, if she refuses, do as she says

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  10. I do pay for the first date, unless, she was completely shallow, had no respect for the waiters, or talked bad about them behind their back, complaining through the date. That happens a lot. I suppose I'm not considered the most polite person..

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  11. Yes, first impressions are everything.

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  12. I would, and I would continue to IF I thought she would make a good girlfriend.

    It's just seems like the right thing to do.

    My girlfriend hates it though but she can't stop me, I'm faster at getting my wallet.

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  13. Condoms, beers and dirty magazines. :P

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  14. Not only at the first date, I pay for her everytime and everywhere. Cinema, restaurant, train tickets, hotel if we go on vacantion...etc...etc...

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  15. depends on what you consider the first date. The girl should know its a date, and she should know that you arent just trying to be friends. If both those prerequisites are met, then yeah you should pay, if you dont pay its not even a date.

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  16. Yes, especially if I'm the one who invited her, then I'll pay for everything.

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  17. yeah,i do that to girls who i dont date to, thats called being a gentleman

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  18. first date always pay for everything after that discuss it after you know each other better.

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  19. naah, you should not pay 4 everything on first date, she might get used to it :pnaah, you should not pay 4 everything on first date, she might get used to it :p

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  20. Try to pay, and if she says she wants to pay for herselve, let her :).

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  21. yea i usually pay for stuff on all the dates, except for the cigs

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  22. I'm always about splitting it. If we're grabbing dinner and doing something else, one person pays for each, or if you're just doing on thing, pay for yourself. I think it makes it less awkward

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  23. I don't date anymore.
    :(
    foreveralone

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  24. If you asked you pay. If she asked don't put out until she buys dinner (you don't want her thinking you're too easy!)

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  25. I kind of expect it, but it's not a big deal either if the guy can't afford it. Being honest about things like that matters more to me.

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  26. I do on the first date. then we go from there.

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  27. I agree with Heaven, Its always nice but I appreciate honestly.

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  28. I did it in my first date, and almost on every date, thats why I dont have many dates

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  29. When I can afford it hahaha.

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  30. a lot of the time girls like to pay themselves are a self worth thing.

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  31. Don't we have that equal rights feminist bullshit thing going on right now? Why should I pay for her then?

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  32. I don't understand how girls can expect this when they rant on about feminism, good post man

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  33. Let's not pull a Mr.Pink here :)

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